Conflict doesn't have to be ugly or toxic or look like tear-screaming feuds. We often associate the word conflict with tension, anxiety, and defensiveness.
On the flip side: What positive takeaways have you gotten through conflict?
What can we gain? What have you learned within conflict resolution or working to understand a misunderstanding?
We can grow and connect through conflict especially with approaching it from an angle of curiosity. If we are open and curious about our partner's perspective, we can usually gain a deeper understanding of what they value.